There is no better way to learn how to apply Gottman Method Couples Therapy than the Level 3 Training. This advanced, practicum workshop is only offered in-person, either by Drs. John and Julie Gottman or by a Certified Gottman Trainer around the world.
Through videotaped cases of real couples, hands-on role plays, demonstrations of assessments and interventions, and nuanced discussion of technique, the Level 3 Training significantly expands your understanding of when and how to use Gottman Method strategies.
In a small-group setting, you will have the opportunity to practice and refine your use of Gottman Method therapy and receive personalized guidance in developing a roadmap for making sound clinical decisions.
The Level 3 Training content represents the true resistances and co-morbidities we face as therapists and how we can transform them into effective healing methods for the couple.
The workshop is structured to help create a safe and secure environment so participants can learn and practice while feeling free of criticism and negative judgment.
Building on the knowledge obtained from Level 1 Training and Level 2 Training, you will master how to effectively use the Oral History Interview during a couple’s assessment and understand its implications. You will learn how to clearly explain to a couple their strengths and challenges in terms of the Sound Relationship House, and how to help partners identify their own “Four Horsemen” and understand the antidotes.
You will learn how to select and utilize appropriate tools to help a couple deepen their Friendship System. You will learn how to clarify a couple’s conflicts in terms of solvable, perpetual, and grid-locked problems, and use the “Dreams Within Conflict” technique to help a couple feel hopeful and to achieve break-through with their perpetual conflict. You will learn how to successfully intervene when one or both partners are flooding, help a couple reach solutions using the Compromise Ovals intervention, and sensitively intervene when co-morbidities are present.
Choose an intervention that is appropriate for the clients at the moment.
Recognize the Four Horseman when one member of a couple exhibits that behavior.
Stop the couple’s dyadic interaction when one member exhibits one of the four horseman. Describe the Four Horseman to the couple.
Explain the antidote to the relevant horseman clearly and accurately.
Coach the person with an alternative way to express him- or herself using an appropriate antidote.
Re-direct the couple to resume communication in a dyadic way. Continue to monitor for the four horsemen and intervene if they reemerge.
Identify when one or both partners are physiologically flooded (and not just upset) and stop the interaction between the couple.
Provide a brief explanation of flooding in clear, sensitive language.
Intervene by guiding one or both partners through a relaxation technique before continuing.
Explain the Dreams Within Conflict process and goals clearly.
Instruct couple on the Dreams Within Conflict intervention.
Assist one partner to ask the other partner questions about the dream or deeper meaning imbedded in their specific gridlocked issue.
Provide The Dream Catcher Questions handout and coach one partner to ask the other questions from the handout to increase understanding of their partner’s underlying dreams or deeper meaning embedded in the specific gridlocked issue; help the couple hold to the questions to go deeper vs. getting into their own point of view.
Introduce the concept of softened start-ups and explain why it helps (i.e., it is easier for their partner to hear and understand their point).
Explain research showing that the first three minutes of a discussion predicts whether that discussion will go well and whether their overall relationship will go well.
Explain importance of expressing needs in positive terms and instruct the partner to restate their point without criticism and then direct them to resume dyadic interaction.
Stop couple’s interaction when one or both partners are not accepting influence.
Explain the need for accepting influence (which may include reference to research). This includes finding a way to understand and honor some aspect of their partner’s position, with a focus on yielding and accepting influence rather than on persuading.
Stop couple and instruct in the concept of offering and accepting repairs and why it is useful.
Provide the Repair Checklist and explains it use.
Ask appropriate Gottman Oral History questions and stay on track with sensitivity to couple’s issues and building rapport.
Conduct Oral History interview with appropriate timing.
Conduct Oral History interview with sensitivity to issues of co-morbidity.
Day One, Two and Three Workshop Outline
PRESENTED BY WILLIAM BUMBERRY, PHD
William Bumberry, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with more than 25 years experience working with couples. He has been with the Gottman Institute for nearly two decades and is a Senior Certified Gottman Couples Therapist and Master Trainer. Dr. Bumberry is a member of the American Psychological Association.
Dr. Bumberry has presented Gottman professional trainings, throughout the U.S. and abroad. He has been featured in numerous workshops and conferences, including The Evolution of Psychotherapy and the Psychotherapy Networker. He is an experienced, clear, energetic speaker with the ability to present complicated material in a practical, easy to use manner. Dr. Bumberry is passionate about helping clinicians bring the Gottman Method into their life’s work ... making the world a better place ... one couple at a time.
In addition to his expertise in the Gottman Method, Dr. Bumberry integrates elements of Emotion Focused Therapy into his work and teaching. Over the course of his career he has trained with or hosted many of the pioneers of the Family Therapy/Systems Therapy world. For many years he worked closely with Dr. Carl Whitaker. He is co author of Dancing with the Family: A Symbolic- Experiential Approach, A Different Kind of Caring (videotape) and Reshaping Family Relationships: The Symbolic Therapy of Carl Whitaker.